Wednesday, 25 April 2018

A support network...

...is better than shoes! I mean, waaaaaay better!

Life has been overwhelming in the past few months... things I never expected would happen, have, in fact, happened and I have found myself in a dark, sad place... and, for some time, I wouldn’t talk to my friends... I wouldn’t talk to anyone...boy, that was dumb! But, hey, the superwoman in me thought that could handle things but, as expected, I was wrong... I almost lost myself...

And then, I opened up... I opened up to S, who is one of the less judgemental people I know, always ready to see both sides, to understand both sides while being on my side too, in the sense that he’s worrying about me... I opened up to M, with her somewhat unconventional views but who is always there to offer me a different, and much needed, perspective on things, a perspective I often miss... I opened up to S and E who opened up a big hug for me, ready to offer their smile and cookies and sunny disposition to take away my pain! And then I opened up to S, her vote of confidence and humor and kindness offered in abundance and so, so much appreciated! And I opened up to M, the little sister I wish I had, her sweet bright smile and understanding and loving words warmed up my heart!

And now, today, being back home, I was received by A and S, S and A, who took me in their arms, literally and metaforically and made me feel like not a day has passed since we last met (although it has been almost two years...), who listened to me and comforted me but, once again, without judging, without placing blames, without drama but with the perspective that intelligent, experienced and kind women have over life... full of love, so much love that filled up my craving heart... They offered me the oasis I so much needed after having wandered in the desert for so long...

My network of support, my friends,  have been there for me, once again, and it has been all I could have wished for! I would gladly trade all my shoes for them, they are all amazing!! And I will never be able to thank them enough but I will not stop saying it: thank you my sweet, lovely, great friends! Thank you!!

Thursday, 5 April 2018

kindness...



So, I read the other day an article over “kindness being the new mindfulness”... f”&#k that! Kindness is not the new anything, it’s just kindness and it is, and always has been, better than shoes!

I have been somewhat under the weather for some time... oh, well, who am I kidding, I have been pretty bad... you may have guessed it by the long silence that I have not been spotting “better then shoes” stuff to report for a while now... I can share with you that even shoes have lost somewhat their appeal to me lately... yep... that bad... however the eternal optimist in me still hopes that it is just a phase and all will be well and even better than before and love will prevail and I will have many, many reasons to smile again soon...

OK, enough with the whining, I’m here to talk about kindness... the kind (hey, this is a wordplay, no?...) that is given generously, unconditionally, openheartedly, abundantly, the kind that comes on a rainy day and brightens it up, exactly when you least expect it! The kind that surprises you and at the same time warms up your heart in ways that you thought forgotten... kindness over kindness already received... dearest L offered me all that and more yesterday and I will never forget it! He listened, he did not judge, he took great care of me, he gave me back a sense of self-confidence that I desperately needed and he did all that with a selflessness and honesty that brought tears to my eyes... happy tears...  yep, that kind of kindness... better than shoes...

My darling L, I thank you once again... you are a good man and don’t ever let anyone, ever, convince you otherwise... looking forward to meeting you again... ;)

Friday, 29 September 2017

Julia louis-Dreyfus...

...is better than shoes. Period.

Yeah, yeah, I know what you are going to say, a person must be better than shoes, after all they are just "things", right?... nah... not! I could right now, off the top of my head, name you at least a dozen that are definitely not... even when considering the ugliest shoes possible... we are talking crocs, people! Don't believe me? Well, here I go: everyone who's a racist! There! I'm already way above the dozen! People in general are not, by default, better than shoes!

But Ms Louis-Dreyfus, Julia, well she is! Hands down! She is a comedic genius! From her incomparable Elaine who stood as an equal next to Jerry and George and left her unforgettable mark in perhaps the funniest ever comedy in the history of television, the "show about nothing" which was "something" indeed and is always sorely missed ever since, to her incredible Veep, the most hilarious ever fictional politician (and oh, so, so bad!)  who, with her entourage of extraordinary talented actors has made me laugh so hard I literally peed my panties! Oh, and of course, who can forget her SNL days and her "old" Christine! Oh, and her "Enough said", with the amazing James Gandolfini, just gorgeous! She's already a legend in my book!

In a predominantly male profession, that of comedy, she has proven time and again (yes, start counting her awards, it will take some time...) that we girls can be funny! Not just funny, magnificently hilarious! She is not alone, the rest of the ladies are there with her, Amy and Tina and Sam and Sarah and so many others, I love them all and they make me laugh with my heart and that, right there, is the most extraordinary gift because, laughter is life! And I could never thank her for it! I mean, I would love to but, hey, our roads do not really cross... damn...

So, I have been pissed off majorly since yesterday when she shared with me, and the whole world obviously, that she's off to a new battle against some stupid rotten cells but, hey, I would bet a pair of Alaïa high heel sandals that she's gonna win! I predict total annihilation of the enemy! And while doing it, she will also manage to help bring awareness to many of us to take care of ourselves and to fight for everyone's right to health care! That's how badass she is!

Ps. October is breast cancer awareness month, ladies! Get checked, stay healthy, fight for your right to health care! Remember, #fuckcancer